And you thought it was love, the narcissist love bombed you. You were looking for someone to love and someone who would love you. You never thought that your dream person would turn into a nightmare. The narcissist will deceive you and cause you to believe that you are their first love. I have studied this for many years. I initially, investigated this behavior from the Jezebel spirit. The characteristics are very similar. I believed that the behavior was mainly spiritual.
The empath narcissist relationship, why does it happen? I believe that it is a spiritual fight, good against evil. The empath is willing to accept the narcissist behavior because they tend to believe that love will win. They see something inside the narcissist that they want to save. They can overlook many emotional problems that conflicts with their beliefs, hoping that if they just love, the narcissist will change and love them back.
But what they don’t understand that the narcissist does not know how to operate out of love, because they are, in most cases, spiritually and emotionally damaged. They are not capable of understanding love because of the belief system that was instilled in their psyche the way they were raised. The narcissist is often a person who was not given or shown true love. The parents that raised them did not show them love or affection. They were most likely traumatized as a child, by neglect or some form of abuse.
And why does the narcissist seek to deceive the empathic person. In most, cases it is because the empath chooses to love the narcissist selflessly. The narcissist’s spirit wants to take advantage of this empathic power. The empath doesn’t realize or understand that there are forces out there that cannot be explained by reason, it can only be explained by the presence of something that is spiritually evil. The empath cannot fathom how someone can think and do evil without a reason except that hurting someone gives them a relief or satisfaction from their internal pain. The spirit is tormenting them with both pain and pleasure and their only relief comes when they satisfy this evil presence.
Here are some of the traits of a narcissist: love bombing at the beginning of a relationship. Lying and manipulation. Uncaring and unfeeling after they are over the initial phase of the relationship. Gaslighting. They are unfaithful and will seek sex outside of the relationship for their self esteem. They hate and are violent. etc.
Jesus vs. Satan
The saying that hurt people hurt others is not enough in the case of the narcissist. The narcissistic personality is difficult for the empath to understand because empaths are simply wired to do good. They are focused on saving the person’s soul while sacrificing theirs. The comparison I would make is that the empath is to Jesus as the narcissist is to Satan. One tends towards love, justice, truth, compassion, kindness and care. The other tends to pride, envy, jealousy, deceitful, hurtful, uncaring, hatred and being unkind. But why do the two often get paired in life.
The answer is not that opposites attract but that the devil wants to destroy Christ in the empath. They want to go after the strongest and yet most vulnerable part of the empath their heart. Your battle is not against the person, the flesh, but against the evil spirit that resides in or is manipulating the narcissist. The Narc will not stop until they completely destroy the empath emotionally and financially.
And why financially and not just emotionally? Because the Narc knows that the empath wants to help others through the gift of hospitality, caring and giving. It fulfills the empath when they are able to help others. They work heartily and tirelessly if they know that the fruit of their labor will end up helping others. Again, they are driven by their sacrificial love even to the point of being a martyr for this cause.
I heard someone say that the narcissist seeks out empaths to destroy them, hurt, persecute them, bring them to their knees, and cause them to have a nightmare of a marriage instead of a fairy tail. But they are looking at it only through a physical and psychological perspective.
The main problem is spiritual. As the Bible says, “We wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world…” (Ephesians 6:12).
The spiritual battle is on. The empath must recognize this and either leave the relationship if they are not willing to sacrifice years of life for this battle. Or they must equip themselves and employ tactics that will allow them to defeat the enemy within the narcissist.
The empaths love and empathy for others causes them to love someone this troubled person because they are driven by an inner sense that they are their for God’s love and justice. They see something that others cannot see. The problem is that the empath is not equipped for the battle that they are undertaking. The battle they are getting into is a huge demonic spiritual stronghold. The usual outcome is that the empath will be overrun by the destructive behavior of the narcissistic spirit. They are in a battle with legions of demonic forces. They don’t realize that as they escalate their efforts to love the narcissist that the demonic entities within are escalating their strategy to demolish the heart and spirit of the empath.
On the other hand the narcissist’s demonic goal is to diminish and devour the love and heart of the empath They are like the black hole of emotional empathy. They can constantly deplete someone of love and never give any back. The only thing they want is to be fed emotionally until the person they married to or are in a relationship with is devoid of love. Then they, the narcissistic man or woman, can say that, “See the empath didn’t really love me.” and “Oh, they thought their love was strong, I proved them wrong.” The demonic side is very calculating and strategically works to find the pressure points that they know will dishearten and eventually destroy the love and heart of the empath. That is the ultimate goal of the narcissistic spirit. To defeat the Christ heart of the empath.
The demonic side wants to humiliate and destroy the soul of the empath just for the enjoyment of it. They enjoy taking whatever you give to them. If you are vulnerable and open. They will use what you told them against you when it serves their purpose to destroy your self worth. The demonic spirit is against the empath solely for its enjoyment of seeing someone who loves as Christ loves be defeated, humiliated and out of the game of life. The greater the evil spiritual forces against should reveal to you that God has a great purpose for your life. You can’t throw in the towel. You need to rise up again and win in life.
But the battle is the Lord’s. The empath can win their hearts back and they can help, if the narcissistic man or woman is willing to surrender to God’s love and redemption. The empath wasn’t wrong about love being the strongest. They just did not understand the spiritual side of the battle.
The battle requires spiritual tools: prayer, Scripture, and unwavering faith. As Ephesians 6:13 reminds us, “Put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground.”
The demonic spirits do not follow the laws of love. They only use hate, anger, shame, humiliation, abuse, and every negative emotional energy they can to drag the empath down to their level. They need your spiritual energy because they don’t have it.
Focus on defeating the demonic spirit within the man or woman. These spirits are often attacking the trauma of the narcissist. When you start to peel away the layers of hurt and trauma that these demons are feeding off of. The narcissistic person will be set free. God’s power and love will be able to penetrate the stronghold of these demonic spirits that has controlled the narcissistic behavior of the man or woman.
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